Tonight, while watching the National News, I almost fell off my chair when they featured a segment exploring the legal rights of consenting adults in polyamorous relationships.   The segment acknowledged that  “at some point we’re going to have a charter challenge much like we saw in 2003 with same-sex marriage.”

This alone is cause for celebration.  You know times are changing and attitudes are changing too when one of Canada’s most respected national news programs presents a segment on the legal rights of polyamorous adults in a non-sensationalized, insightful manner.

The time for a utopian future that positively acknowledges relationships beyond monogamy is nigh!

For the full article, visit: http://www.cbc.ca/news/politics/polyamorous-families-legal-challenges-1.3758621



Many of my friends think it takes a lot of courage to attend lifestyle events either at a house party or a club dedicated to open minded people. When I tell them about taking an entire trip at a lifestyle resort, the shock, horror and disbelief is tangible. Think about it… going to a bar where you can have sex is a big step for many but at least, it is close to home and you can escape if it is too much for you or you can suffer through it for a few hours until it’s done if this is really not for you. On the other hand, planning, packing, flying and spending thousands of dollars for being immersed in the culture for an entire week… that’s something else all together.

My partner and I have been to Hedonism three times so far. To tell you the truth, these are our best vacations. Not because of the sex, simply because of the freedom to be who you are and do what you want. Vanilla people visualize a resort where there is a constant orgy and you can’t distinguish who is touching who. Obviously the reality is far from that. You have a choice between prude or nude areas. Even if you choose the nude pool, doesn’t mean you will sex with anyone. Mingling is a bit closer and friendlier for sure but everyone is respectful and no one is at risk of doing things they don’t want. Most people get to know one another and if there is a good connection, they usually take their new friends to their rooms or to a more private area. If jumping in the middle of a pile of naked bodies is your activity of choice, there are plenty of opportunities usually later at night if you know where to look. If you decide to go to Hedonism, choose your week wisely. Different groups attend at various times of the year. Try and find a group who is similar in age and demographics as you. This will certainly improve your level of enjoyment.

Even though you don’t go there for the food, meals were always good with a great selection. The resort is under new management and they are renovating and upgrading every year. It is a slow process but the facelift is evident. As someone who loves to dance, I am quite partial to the entertainers and I fell in love with many gorgeous female dancers who twerked their way into my heart. I was ass hypnotized to say the least! Every night has a different theme and the more you dress the part and participate, the more fun you will have. When we went the themes were hat and heels, glow party, foam night at the disco, character night, fetish, party like a rock star and toga party. Our suitcases were filled with costumes. Very little clothes were worn as we were naked the rest of the trip. Always fun to explain if they choose to search your luggage!

Coming back to reality is always difficult. These are the hardest vacations to come back from. We are already talking about when we can get back there. Until then, we are lucky that we have a place like Eden which is very similar to Hedonism. Love the freedom and playfulness of our theme night events where we go meet old friends and make new ones😉

Pillow Talk with Dr Renee

The 9” Real Feel Deluxe Vibrating Dildo by Pipedream is a great toy for more experienced couples looking to mix things up or for a new angle on multi-partner play!

Compared to any other dildo in my tickle trunk, this one is by far the most realistic. But at Real Feel Deluxe Dildo9” in length and 2” in diameter, it’s a BEAST which means that I would recommend this one for more experienced players. If you are new to multi-partner play and strap-ons, or you’re just starting to experiment with some pegging play, the REAL Feel Deluxe will be about as intimidating as an Amazonian Anaconda. But once you get a few strokes under your belt, this makes for a great upgrade that can be a lot of fun!

I just happen to be one of those girls that likes a little role reversal. I’ve used lots of dildos in my day on girls that like girls, bi guys, and guys that just want to try a little prostate massage, but to be clear, never on my current boyfriend who will appreciate me clarifying that “no, this will never penetrate his virgin hole”.

So why do I like the REAL dildo?

Well…for starters…it vibrates. Anything that goes buzz in the night gets an extra gold star in my book. Vibrations generally equal more pleasure which equals more fun for him and her.

It has a suction cup base that attaches to almost any smooth surface. Position it at the perfect height to suit your mood and thrust your way to a mind-blowing orgasm while your hands are free to play with you or your partner.

It’s completely waterproof so you and your partner can enjoy wet and wild play in the tub, the shower, the hot tub and more.

It is strap-on compatible so you can use it in a plethora of pleasure plays (that’s my “triple P”). If he’s into pegging, put it in a harness for hands free penetration. If you just happen to find yourself in a threesome (either FMF or MFM) or foursome, well…let’s just say that this toy can be fun for everyone!

It mimics the softness of real skin and has a lifelike appearance with a pronounced head and veins leading to a more pleasurable, realistic ride.

Overall, this is a great couple’s toy and not much needs improving but I’m a huge advocate for safe sex so here’s my plug…

Safety first! If you plan to share your toy between partners, put a condom on it. This toy is porous which means that bacteria can find a way to grow. I ALWAYS sleeve my toys and this one is no exception.

Secondly, although the REAL Feel Deluxe claims to be phthalate-free, like many adult toys, it is also advertised as “sold as a novelty only” which means it lacks regulatory accountability.

For more information on this, check out this article – The Safety Dance: Sex Toy Safety in a New Generation.

Putting a condom on your toy will not minimize its pleasure. Just be sure to pick up a package of extra large because this bad boy is a beast.

Enjoy the toy!


Founder of Club Eden a Fantasy Club for Couples

and Sex Get Over It (Blog)

I’m so excited….I learned about something new today – the Female G-spot enhancement procedure, otherwise known as the “Gshot”.  The “Gshot” is a simple procedure whereby a collagen shot is introduced into the G-spot to enlarge it to the size of a quarter. The supposed result is increased sensitivity and heightened sexual pleasure. As part of my ongoing pursuit of achieving maximum orgasmic pleasure, this is now on my bucket list.

Has anyone had this done? Can anyone recommend a doctor that can do this in Vancouver? Perhaps someone knows a doc that would be willing to do a complimentary procedure on me and I will document/blog about the results.  I will happily donate my girlie parts to this scientific study and will then report back to the community…really…pick me!

Watch a video on the procedure here.


consentToday, I attended a Consent Workshop by The Consent Crew. There were some interesting discussions amongst the attendees and organizers about some great topics.  I want to reiterate some of the points that I feel are most relevant based on my experiences over the past two decades.


How many of you are guilty of trying to giggle your way out of an uncomfortable situation just to be polite?  And how many of you have compromised your own boundaries just to wake up the next morning filled with regret?  Western cultural values have taught us to be excessively polite, but that shouldn’t be at the cost of your own personal boundaries.  If somebody is doing something that makes you uncomfortable, you have the right to say no.  And, although you don’t have to justify your reason for saying no, saying it in a way that is polite and respectful will go a long way towards diffusing what could become a confrontational situation over hurt feelings.  Here are some of my favourite ways to say no:

  • No thank you (smile on face).
  • Thanks for offering but not at this time.
  • I’m not into that, but thanks anyway.
  • You seem like a great person but I’m not interested. Thanks anyway.



When you hear no, you may feel hurt, rejected and generally bad.  Why?  Because our culture has taught us that “no” is a bad word when in reality, “no” is just somebody’s way of expressing their own personal boundaries.  Usually, the no you are hearing has very little to do with you and everything to do with the person saying it.  Perhaps they are there for a different reason than you.  Maybe the timing is just off.  Or, it could be as simple as they like blonds, and you’re a brunette.  Whatever the reason, remind yourself…“getting a no is no big deal”.   Here are some of my favorite ways to respond gracefully to “no”:

  • I’m not hearing a clear yes so I’ll take that as a no.
  • No problem.
  • Thanks for letting me know. I appreciating knowing your boundary.
  • Thanks anyway.



Obvious right?  Easier said than done.  Consent is complicated.  Often, expectations surrounding consent are firmly rooted in cultural values, gender values, family values, or even the environment we are in at the time.  At Club Eden, the expectations are framed by the use of signage, marketing, and agreements.  This is a great foundation for consent.  But even with all of this, there is still room for interpretation based on an individual’s unique perspective formed over the course of a lifetime.  This is why it is also important to say no when you feel like your personal boundaries are being compromised.  In my experience, most people want to do the right thing and DON’T want to maliciously or deliberately compromise your boundaries.  They just don’t realize they are doing it.   Here is one of my favorite personal stories to reflect how cultural expectations can create a misalignment between boundaries:

While working in an office environment, one of the long term vendors and friends of the owner approached me saying “it’s nice to finally meet you”.  He then stepped in and gave me a hug and then a kiss on my left and right cheek.   My background is British and back then, I was a bit of a cold fish.  His background is South American and to not step in with a light hug and kiss on the cheeks would be considered an insult.  He didn’t get my consent but conversely, because of his cultural values, he didn’t think he had to.   This illustrates a great example of how easily consent boundaries can be accidentally crossed.

When at Eden, remember these four points to help you navigate consent:

  1. Play within the rules of the framework provided (signs, agreements, marketing messages).
  2. Politely say no when your boundaries are being crossed;
  3. Politely hear/accept no when somebody tells you.
  4. If your no is not being heard, then it’s ok to find the organizer or one of the staff to help you diffuse the situation.

When attending other sex positive events remember to familiarize yourself with their unique framework.

I hope this article helps you find your voice for consent.  Play safe, have fun and respect your own boundaries and the boundaries of others.

Eve, Founder of Club Eden and Co-author of Sex Get Over It

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Flare Magazine…you have been caught with your pants down and I like it.

While waiting to see my hairstylist, I spotted your February, 2016 edition of Flare Magazine boldly advertising “The LOVE & SEX ISSUE”.  Out of bored curiosity, I flipped to page 84 expecting to find typical stories like “What to buy your lover for Valentine’s”, or “How to turn up the heat this Valentine’s with chocolate, satin sheets and erotic massage”.

Instead, you had your eyes wide open covering 50 shades of SEX with stories about pegging (girls with strap-ons doing boys), cock and ball torture, and “Diary of a Poly Girl – a week in the life of my three-way relationship”.

One of your readers, soon to be ex I’m guessing, commented on your “pegging perversion” citing “Again, disgusting material.  I bet he goes gay after he finds out how good pegging feels…”.   Well Melanie, if you don’t like it, don’t read it?  And if you prefer to limit your intimate encounters to strictly bedroom basics then I say…whatever floats your boat.  But for those of us that wish to move beyond the missionary, what gives you the right to judge?

Flare Magazine, I applaud you for having the courage to publish articles on sexuality that most are too uncomfortable to talk about.  Proof that we are entering an era of acceptance and tolerance where piano legs no longer need to be covered, we can serve chicken legs to our dinner guests and yes, women do actually like sex.

Thank you flare magazine!

And to my readers…please support Flare Magazine’s style by reading some of these articles…

Adventures in Pegging

Diary of a Polyamorous Relationship

Six Women Confess Their Secret Kinks