Flare Magazine…you have been caught with your pants down and I like it.

While waiting to see my hairstylist, I spotted your February, 2016 edition of Flare Magazine boldly advertising “The LOVE & SEX ISSUE”.  Out of bored curiosity, I flipped to page 84 expecting to find typical stories like “What to buy your lover for Valentine’s”, or “How to turn up the heat this Valentine’s with chocolate, satin sheets and erotic massage”.

Instead, you had your eyes wide open covering 50 shades of SEX with stories about pegging (girls with strap-ons doing boys), cock and ball torture, and “Diary of a Poly Girl – a week in the life of my three-way relationship”.

One of your readers, soon to be ex I’m guessing, commented on your “pegging perversion” citing “Again, disgusting material.  I bet he goes gay after he finds out how good pegging feels…”.   Well Melanie, if you don’t like it, don’t read it?  And if you prefer to limit your intimate encounters to strictly bedroom basics then I say…whatever floats your boat.  But for those of us that wish to move beyond the missionary, what gives you the right to judge?

Flare Magazine, I applaud you for having the courage to publish articles on sexuality that most are too uncomfortable to talk about.  Proof that we are entering an era of acceptance and tolerance where piano legs no longer need to be covered, we can serve chicken legs to our dinner guests and yes, women do actually like sex.

Thank you flare magazine!

And to my readers…please support Flare Magazine’s style by reading some of these articles…

Adventures in Pegging

Diary of a Polyamorous Relationship

Six Women Confess Their Secret Kinks


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HPV is the most common sexually transmitted infection in the world today.  There are over 100 different types of the virus. Over 40 are sexually transmitted and responsible for genital and anal warts.  15 high risk types can cause pre-cancerous lesions, cervical cancer as well as anal cancer and other genital cancers.

While condoms are a good start to protecting you from STIs, they’re not bulletproof.  HPV is highly contagious and can spread through direct skin to skin contact.  Condoms only offer protection over the areas that are covered.

In 2006, the HPV vaccination was introduced for women up to age 26.  By 2011, the use of Gardasil in women was studied and approved for women up to age 45. It was found that the vaccine helped protect against infection and disease from the HPV types contained in the vaccine provided they had not been previously infected.

Good news for women aged 26-45.  Even better news for those in a non-monogamous relationship.  Don’t you owe it to yourself to play safe?  Call your doctor and get vaccinated today! Protection from genital warts and cancers below the waist is just a prick away.

Eve, http://www.clubeden.ca


FIGO endorses HPV vaccination


Public Health Agency Canada


When it comes to sex, no household object is off limits. Even seemingly innocent gadgets designed for health and wellness can be turned into perverse objects of sexual desire.

Take the Hitachi Magic Wand for example. Designed as a massager used to alleviate sore muscles and speed recovery, “the HV250R is the legendary, super-powerful electric massager with the soft, flexible head. If this one doesn’t provide enough stimulation, nothing will…”.

With a write up like that, are you surprised to learn that the Hitachi Magic Wand is secretly heralded as the big daddy of vibrating sex toys?

With 20 watts of vibrating power delivering 5000-6000 rpms with two speeds, this “massager” can only be objectified as the most powerful vibrating superpower known to woman.

Oh Hitachi…how I love thee.

Compared to conventional vibrators (at least any I know), not only is the Hitachi Magic Wand bigger, faster and stronger, it’s also stealthy. Like a wolf in sheep’s clothing, it hides in plain site. Because it’s a massager (not a vibrator you dirty perv), it has no shame. It doesn’t ship in a brown bag. It doesn’t hide in a tickle trunk. It demands no excuses. And it can be picked up at Walmart for under $50.

It can single handedly produce mind blowing orgasms again and again and again and again and again and again and…(sorry, I digress). But beware. The Hitachi Magic Wand can also be used for evil and should only be purchased after reading the fine print:

The Hitachi Magic Wand may cause you to spasm uncontrollably…more than once. You may be prone to shouting unexpected obscenities and screaming which could piss off your neighbors. You may lose all desire to leave your house. If you’re single, you may never date again. If you’re married, your partner may experience feelings of inadequacy if device is used alone. Prolonged use may cause your naughty bits to become unbearably sensitive after too many orgasms and as such, The Hitachi Magic Wand is not recommended for use as a medieval torture device. Use sparingly and with caution…

How is it that in the 21st century, we can put a man on the moon, we have a black president, we can grow human organs from stem cells, and gay marriage is legal in some states, but we still can’t wrap our heads around sex?

When it comes to the topic of sex, we’re like lambs to the slaughter.  We do and say what we’re programmed by society to do; just as our predecessors did in the Victorian Era.  Imagine…

During the 19th century, it was believed that discharging semen could shorten your life.

It was considered indelicate to offer a lady a “leg of chicken” for fear that you would give over to your urges and pounce over the dinner table to copulate – obscene!

Table and piano legs were to be covered so as not to invoke sexual urges.

Parents went to great lengths to protect the health of their sons by fitting them with locked penis cages and other devices that made erections too painful to endure.

William Hammond, U.S. Surgeon General, said that nine tenths of the time decent women had no pleasure from intercourse.

And God forbid you have sex for pleasure!  Based on the highly influential workings of Kraft-Ebing (publisher of “Psychopathia Sexualis”), sex for pleasure that does not induce pregnancy is a perversion of biology and God’s will.   (rape good…masturbation bad).

Today, these ideals seem absurd, unbelievable, and perhaps even as mythical as the theory that “the world is flat”.

But in the 19th century, scientific fact was not available to support these ideas.  Instead, they were shaped by the popular opinions of scholars, doctors, psychologists, religious leaders and other influencers and society embraced them unwaveringly.

“When the society says it’s good to have sex then it’s psychologically sick not to, and when the society says it’s bad to have sex then it’s psychologically sick to [have sex].  William A. Henkin

150 years may have passed, and although our ideals have changed, our thought process is still the same – when it comes to sex, we still judge, we still fear, we still feel guilt and we are still driven by societal norms based on opinions of modern day influencers.

Sadly, we are still repressed.

Maybe one day, we will receive all the scientific proof that we need to support the concept that “sex is good” just as “the world is round”.

And only then, “society” will transform into free thinking individuals that can explore sex safely, not judge and have fun without guilt!

If you’re considering ANY type of open relationship, or are already knee deep in one, Opening Up – A Guide to Creating and Sustaining Open Relationships by Tristan Taormino is a must read.  The book gives clarity on the different styles of open relationships from partnered non-monogamy to swinging to polyamourous to mono/poly combinations and everything in between.

You’ll learn how to design your open relationship, strategies for survival, how to overcome common challenges, tips for coping with jealousy and and other itense feelings, and you’ll read about the experiences of other couples along the way.

Although this book is not a step by step how to guide, it will give you great insight into the bigger picture complete with lots of “aha” moments and “ohhh…that makes sense” realizations.  By the time you’re done this book, you’ll be armed with all the terminology and insight you need to map out your journey.  You’ll have a better understanding of what makes an open relationship work, what doesn’t and potential pitfalls to avoid.  But of course, given the nature of the content, this book is best read together.

Buy now from Chapters.ca.

Whoopie…I’ve finally found it! A WIRELESS vibrating egg that’s worth writing home about. I know…ewww…but trust me, “The Boss” is da’ bomb. If I was equipped with boy naughty bits, I would say “The Boss” is like the Lamborghini of wireless vibrating eggs. It’s smooth, sleek the engine purrrrs under the hood…and so will yours when you take it for a test drive.

So let’s get right to the point. Compared to other vibrating eggs, The Boss is a bit of a fat head at a comfortable 4 ¼” around by 3 ¼” long. It’s made of hypoallergenic ABS plastic that is velvety to the touch making it less invasive on first impact. It is also
non-porous and phthalate-free, lubricant friendly, and easy to clean with anti-bacterial soap.

The WIRELESS remote is one of the best I’ve seen with TEN sweet settings that will keep you “guessing and waiting for your next ‘command’”. Your partner on the other hand, will know exactly what speed it’s at with one quick check of the easy to read LED digital display.

But best of all, our own ‘bedroom’ tests prove that you can fire up the engine and switch gears from over 30 feet away! Plus, it’s quiet and discrete making it the perfect toy for a naughty night on the town or my “good vibrations” fantasy.

Enjoy the ride!

Eve’s rating:

Where to buy: Forbidden Fantasies Lingerie

I have a friend who is single. She just happens to have genital herpes which can make dating a tad more complicated. Last week, she met a match on a well known dating website. After making an online connection, but before heading out on her first date, she very politely let him know that she is herpes positive so that he could make an informed decision before things got too out of hand.

I would like to hope that most would take the opportunity to get educated, or simply bow out gracefully. But this particular “Jack” exploded and called her every name in the book from slut to whore to everything in between. When I heard about his simple minded response, I was disgusted.

It’s no wonder that so many people are ashamed to talk about and deal with this issue. It’s no wonder that so many choose to simply ignore their situation and continue to contribute to the spread of herpes. It’s a wonder that my friend doesn’t just keep her mouth shut and take her chances in the future.

My friend should be commended! She is incredibly brave and is blazing the trail in open sexual communication. Herpes is one of many STIs out there and people need to talk about the facts in order to stop the spread of this disease and others like it.

Facts about Herpes
• At least one in four Americans will contract an STD at some point in their lives.
• One in five Americans has genital herpes (at least 80% are not aware they have it)
• Many people who have genital herpes are unaware that they have the virus because they have no symptoms, mild symptoms, or mistake the symptoms for other conditions such as jock itch, yeast infections, razor burn or allergic reactions to detergents.
• Genital herpes can be transmitted during vaginal, anal or oral sex even if the infected person has no open sores or any other symptoms of infection.
• Condom use reduces the risk of getting genital herpes and other STIs. However, when using a condom, remember that the exposed areas of skin are still unprotected. To prevent spread of the virus during oral sex use a condom on the penis and a condom cut lengthwise or a dental dam over the female genital area

I don’t know why I continue to be surprised at how ignorant and judgmental people can be when it comes to sexuality and sexual health. Stop judging and get educated. When it comes to sex, ignorance is only bliss until that morning you wake up with open sores on your naughty bits.

And for those of you living with STDs, there is still hope of finding your match. Check out positive singles – The best, largest, completely anonymous and most trusted personals network for STD singles and friends in the world. (More than blog worthy)

You’re not alone!

A married couple went to the hospital together to have their baby delivered. Upon their arrival, the doctor said he had invented a new machine that would transfer a portion of the mother’s labor pain to the father.

He asked if they were willing to try it out. They were both very much in favor of it. The doctor set the knob to 10% for starters, explaining that even 10% was probably more pain than the father had ever experienced before. But as the labor pains progressed, the husband felt fine. So, he asked the doctor to go ahead and bump it up a notch. The doctor then adjusted the machine to 20% pain transfer and the husband was still feeling fine. The doctor checked the husbands blood pressure and pulse and was amazed at how well he was doing. At this, they decided to try for 50%. The husband continued to feel quite well.

Since it was obviously helping out his wife considerably, he encouraged the doctor to transfer ALL the pain to him. The wife delivered a healthy baby with virtually no pain. She and her husband were ecstatic.

When they got home, they found the mailman dead on their porch.

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